Emails and life

This past five days have been a whirlwind for me. A good friend lost her mom, there has been tons of emails about Moving Difference achievements and then there has been the real life of violence here in the United States and even in other parts of the world.

Somewhere in the middle of all that, most of us are struggling to pay the bills, to be healthy, to have a job that we enjoy or at least can work at with expectations of decent wage. It is life.

It is hard to balance in the mind such small short things with such great loss of life daily. I haven’t been able to sit down at this computer and put my thoughts on paper because I don’t know how to in moments, followed by moments of complete anger and pain at the world, followed by moments of sadness for all.

There is no one answer to all the problems in the world. Sadly love and peace isn’t an answer just like war and anger isn’t an answer.  It is back to balance of everything. We can’t be a great world if we can’t respect each other and live in harmony. It isn’t us vs. them, cause we are all one people. Always.

So what do we do? We keep going  forward, we know our neighbors, we reach out to our fellow humans and we make an impact. We keep moving forward toward equality, towards a peaceful existence, towards a better future for all.

In that spirit, I ask that you think about doing an extra hour of Moving Difference this summer with a human touch. Meet your neighbors, talk to the mail person, strike up a conversation with a complete stranger, listen, connect, reply and more than anything acknowledge people. Don’t let fear rule the day, simply say hi, smile, or stop and said something nice. You might get a reply and you might not, but you aren’t doing it for a reply, you are doing to for the world and that is bigger than both of us.

I am off to do my extra hour right now, holding a sign on the busy corner I know, it simply says “Have a great Tuesday!!”

BTW – you are amazing people, all of you, MDY5 hit over 250k in completed hours on Sunday. Thanks!20160320_143434

 

 

 

Guest Blog – Side one of a two-sided coin

This week’s guest blogger is thoughts from the side of the Non-profit. We are doing these counterpoints to show that we are all not that far apart in the grand scheme of things…comments welcomed….

 

From the Non-Profit Side by K.F.

Establishing and maintaining a non-profit organization takes a lot of hard work, committed partners, and even some luck. As the Executive Director of an international non-profit, I can tell you that having a group of individuals committed to the cause is vital to the success of any organization. From the day to day activities to the direct oversight of programs and staff, volunteers tend to be the most committed individuals within any non-profit. From running programs, to direct donor contact, to fundraising, to grunt jobs like mailing letters….volunteers are an integral part of any non-profit. Without volunteers, administrative costs would be significantly higher, programs would have less funding, and even Boards of Directors would be understaffed. But with all the positive attributes of volunteers, there are certainly draw-backs too.

While so many volunteers are dedicated, passion driven, and reliable, many are not. Let’s face it, volunteers have a long list of daily activities frequently including caring for family members, and careers. Like everyone, life is full of expected and unexpected craziness. Even the most dedicated people struggle every day just to get food on the table and kids to bed on time. It’s easy for volunteering to frequently take a back seat to kids, school, family activities, and paying jobs. However, when volunteers don’t fulfill their obligations, programs and organizations suffer.

For 12 years, I’ve been the Executive director of a completely volunteer-run non-profit. Yep, no paid staff at all. This has led to very low administrative costs and volunteer staff around the world. However, it also has prevented quick growth and expansion. Volunteers, rightfully so, frequently view volunteering as something they do in their free time. At the end of the day when work is done, kids are in bed, and a little free time is available, it’s hard to get motivated to do another job. Weekends are packed with a variety of activities or chores that need to get done, and volunteering doesn’t always make the top of the priority list.

While most of us can understand the dilemma, when life gets in the way of volunteering, programs suffer. For instance, often volunteers are in charge of sending thank you notes to donors. Ensuring that donors know their gift is invaluable is vital to any organization. If thank you notes aren’t sent in a timely manner, donors can feel taken for granted. When donors know their gifts are appreciated they are more likely to donate again and tells others to do the same. An increase of personal contact with donors leads to an increase in donations. Unfortunately the opposite is also true.

Additionally, volunteers often resign from their duties with little or no notice. Because the volunteer position is not generally viewed as a “job”, volunteers frequently feel they don’t have an obligation to provide notice of their departure in advance as they would a paying job. Most of us have had a conversation with our friends or family about how we must start “saying no” to leading or participating in extra activities like heading the school’s bake sale, or being on yet another committee at church. In the frazzled world we live in, those conversations (at least in my house) frequently take place over a glass of wine with friends after a long, exhausting week. We feel empowered to set limits for ourselves and want to make a change immediately. No one can fault us for that. The problem arises for those organizations we have previously committed to, when we simply make the phone call or send the email on Monday morning saying, “It’s been fun, but I need to simplify my life. I hope you find someone else soon.” What volunteers don’t always understand is that the impact they are making is HUGE. Maybe they feel underappreciated, or maybe quitting is all about their personal lives and stress, but either way ending a volunteer position without the same type of notice given to an employer has a negative impact on the organization and other volunteers.

On the organizational side, I’ve heard similar concerns from volunteers. Organizations that make quick decisions about ending volunteer positions or changing the way individuals are allowed to volunteer can make those volunteers feel like they were simply spinning their wheels and not making a real impact. Sadly, while many organizations want their volunteers to treat their positions as if they are employees, volunteers are not always give the same consideration when changes are discussed or necessary. Volunteers are frequently the most knowledgeable about their positions and needs within a program. Countless volunteers have been shocked when they learn we have job descriptions for their positions, ask their options about programs on a regular basis, and have deadlines we expect to be met. Finding the balance between expecting the volunteer and the organization to treat the position as a “real job” is difficult, but vital if organizations want less turn-over and professional workers.

Training for volunteers is also frequently lacking on an organizational level. Volunteers want to help, but they also want to know the organization’s expectations clearly and want to do their jobs well. Organizations that don’t put time into teaching volunteers exactly what is needed only contribute to the problem of high volunteer turn over and a lack of prioritizing the volunteer work. Motivating volunteers is often over-looked, especially when taking time up-front to train and educate volunteers about the organization’s mission can seem more time consuming than it’s worth.

Unfortunately this applies to members of an organization’s Board of Directors (BOD). Often individuals interested of being on a BOD have wonderfully altruistic motivations for doing so….they want to use their professional skills to make a difference around the world. However, without in-depth information about programs, board expectations, cultural considerations, future goals, and organizational history, potential BOD members have difficulty committing. For instance, if board members feel as if there are no guidelines for choosing and keep board members, there is little motivation for them to accept a position or continue on the board. Even an interview process before offering a board position to a new member increases the likelihood a new board member will be committed and active on the board. Regardless, there is no way to ensure a board member will follow the job description and be a productive member of the board, but organizations that don’t have a clear process for finding committed member will be less likely to have BOD members who are willing to work hard and be productive, rather than having a line item on a resume.

Like other volunteers, a wide range of other commitments often take priority over board obligations. However, additional problems like different ideas of the board’s role, and personality conflicts potentially lead to stalled work. While it’s rare that overt conflicts occur, underlying frustrations around how to problem solve, appropriate ways to budget or plan for the future can cause meetings to feel as if they don’t move forward or come to a conclusions. Individuals who are risk takers and prefer to plan based on where they want an organization to be in the future often have difficulties agreeing on a plan with those who are more conservative and want to plan based on the past.   Those with a social work background, have a hard time focusing on evaluations of staff or finances, while those with an accounting background are more focused on concrete information and statistics.

At the end of the day, every non-profit organization knows that volunteers in any form are vital to their work. Their tireless efforts are more often than not a huge asset to any organization. While there are always difficulties within any organization given personality differences, job overlap, and other commitments, it’s clear volunteers are invaluable. If organizations want volunteers to be invested in their work, those organizations must also be invested in providing volunteers all they need to be successful. Without effort for both sides, the volunteer system within any organization will fail. Those served by non-profits around the world deserve better.

Courage, birthday candles and love

I am taking a weekend off from this huge Moving Difference project. Yup, this weekend….

I am sure that you all will survive one weekend…. if not, email me on Monday. Ha!

 

The love of my life is celebrating his milestone of a birthday on Saturday.

Yes, he is the love of my life, the guy that is there for all the stuff that happens and even for yet another idea of mine.

 

I am proud of him. He is an amazing person and then he does some pretty cool stuff with his profession and other interests.

 

He is what courage is all about. He has the courage to be himself and the courage to stand up for those who can’t.

He is a friend, a colleague, a person, a brother, an uncle, a nephew, a son and a legal professional.

 

His dreams are mind-blowing, his laughter I could live in, his hopes are simple and his love is wide.

I am so lucky that he shares this crazy life with me, I am thankful for all of the moments and all of the starlight, both in the sky and in our hair….

 

To the love of my life – happy birthday!

I love you so much. J

 

To the rest of you – The best lines from Easyrider (the movie) and catch you all on Monday!

 

Easyrider scene (link to the scene)

 

George Hanson: You know, this used to be a helluva good country. I can’t understand what’s gone wrong with it.

Billy: Man, everybody got chicken, that’s what happened. Hey, we can’t even get into like, a second-rate hotel, I mean, a second-rate motel, you dig? They think we’re gonna cut their throat or somethin’. They’re scared, man.

George Hanson: They’re not scared of you. They’re scared of what you represent to ’em.

Billy: Hey, man. All we represent to them, man, is somebody who needs a haircut.

George Hanson: Oh, no. What you represent to them is freedom.

Billy: What the hell is wrong with freedom? That’s what it’s all about.

George Hanson: Oh, yeah, that’s right. That’s what’s it’s all about, all right. But talkin’ about it and bein’ it, that’s two different things. I mean, it’s real hard to be free when you are bought and sold in the marketplace. Of course, don’t ever tell anybody that they’re not free, ’cause then they’re gonna get real busy killin’ and maimin’ to prove to you that they are. Oh, yeah, they’re gonna talk to you, and talk to you, and talk to you about individual freedom. But they see a free individual, it’s gonna scare ’em.

Billy: Well, it don’t make ’em runnin’ scared.

George Hanson: No, it makes ’em dangerous. Buh, neh! Neh! Neh! Neh! Swamp!

A jewel is just a pebble that is worth something to someone

It has not been a stellar week.

Here I sit at a bus stop in the the middle of a bad rain storm in the middle of a very long week.

Personally I have spent too much time looking for a package, waiting and worrying for calls and emails on a variety of things and everything else plus work and other life stuff.

Then I am reminded of  a phrase from an old college science professor.

“A jewel is just a pebble that is worth something to someone”

I am reminded of the small things that do the most good are how you see them. Sure, there is bad everywhere and anywhere, but there is good at the same places.

The raindrops aren’t tears from heaven, they are water leaking from cloud, right?

I am losing it – I am wet, scared, tired, unsuccessful and beyond frustrated.

The wind is making the rain dance on the puddles in a rhythm pattern. And I am so wet that I don’t think anybody can tell the difference between the rain and my tears. I am a large very wet to the bone sobbing mess and I am thinking about rocks.

A truck hits the puddles. I didn’t think I could get more wet, but I did.

There is nowhere to escape the rain, the wet, the heat or the fact that I am officially spent emotionally and it is only Wednesday.

I see the next truck coming, I know the puddles are deep. I know that I don’t have the package that I have spent all of this week looking for. I know I am waiting and worrying on many areas of life stuff. I know that it is still raining. I know the puddle is coming to me.

And it did. I wasn’t any wetter this time.

Just mad that I couldn’t do anything to change the situation – the moment of time that I was in.

Still no bus, still raining, still wet.

I decided to pick up the trash so it doesn’t go into the storm drain.

Cans, wrappers and plastic bottles and a pretty cool rock…..

I think I will keep it….

And I am walking home, can’t get any wetter and I can’t make the package appear, the emails and calls happen or the world to stop being crazy but I pick up the trash here and I can enjoy a walk in the rain in a new rock in my pocket.

 

Note: This was written yesterday, but because of storms and the internet being funky – it was finally posted today.

 

 

 

 

 

3600 Seconds

It is amazing to think that one hour is 3600 seconds.

Time is such an interesting thing – it can go too fast and too slow – but it always goes.

 

I sometimes want time to stop, it like many other things in my life, doesn’t listen to me at all.

 

I want a hug to last longer, a kiss to be forever and a laugh to keep going.

When I think about my life, I don’t think the hours or the days or even the seconds, I think about the moments.

From one moment to another, I live my life in moments.

There are good moments and bad moments, moments of tears, moments of unknown fear, and moments in between.

 

I hope that you take a moment – one of those seconds – and reach out, tell someone that they matter

and then you made a moment that even time can’t take away.

 

Cheers!

 

 

#Sunday Thought Week 3

After a VERY busy Fourth of July Weekend, I am glad it is actually Sunday.

I need a nap from all this weekend activities!

But alas, last night as the skies unfold until an array of twinkling lights….I think of this past week and the words of Dr. Mae Jemison the First African-American Woman in Space…..

“It’s your place in the world; it’s your life. Go on and do all you can with it, and make it the life you want to live.”
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I think I will skip the nap and go help out on a few Moving Difference projects happening in the area! 🙂
Hope to see you out there!!

#Sunday Thought Week 2

Welcome to the second Sunday of Moving Difference Year 3!

The first week and change has blown by and honestly the amount of hours and emails are beyond amazing… it is in the mind-blowing range….

The thing is though, we need to talk about something serious on this Sunday Thought – we need to address keeping the motivation going for the rest of the summer…

Sure a great first week, but there are 11 other weeks of summer ahead – so in that spirit today’s quote is something for that…

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The Road not taken

Morning light brings many things into view.

Mostly, that I want food.

My adventures in the world of Moving Difference, has lead me to speak at several civic groups, pick up trash with youth groups, drive tons of miles, receive a lot of emails and volunteering at so many places across the state and now the country, well – it is hard not to want breakfast because the rest of the day is going to be busy.

This is my road not taken. I am not a morning person. In fact, mornings are for people that refuse to stay up overnight and properly greet the dawn with sneers. Okay it isn’t that bad, but it is bad. And no, coffee doesn’t work. And no, I don’t make everybody else suffer because I don’t like mornings.

In fact many people don’t even know this about me. I truly make an effort not to refuse doing something at 6 in the morning and be ugly about it.

So I am not the “bubbly change the world” person but I am present, briefly smiling and WANT FOOD.

Since the start of Moving Difference last June, I have done more mornings before 6am than I have done in the last five years alone.

I have discovered that if you don’t get breakfast when you wake up that early then your entire day is going down hill fast and before noon…..

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I have also discovered that an orange cut in half and the guts eaten make a great cooking bowl for over-easy eggs and ready-to-bake cinnamon rolls. AND a banana with the ends cut off and grilled in peel makes a tasty treat with the frosting packet from the cinnamon rolls!!

Not bad for a healthy breakfast on the road and certainly an adventure to make when half-wake!!

My road not taken of early mornings have lead me to places and people that are beyond beauty, they are life-changing. So I will take this road not taken for a bit more and see where it ends before I wiggle back into the night schedule and remember the mornings of campfire eggs…..

So what is your road not taken?

All new beginnings start from another beginning’s ends.

Bittersweet describes chocolate well, but it doesn’t do justice to the coming of the end of Moving Difference this week.

I am stunned as the emails still continue to pour in with the hours that have been done by people doing the Moving Difference project.

When the final drum rolls with the amount, I am sure that you will be too….

But we have a few days before that happens.

So before then, there will be a few housekeeping items to deal with, and a few other loose bits to tend to… after all we have four more days before that sunset.

Speaking of the sunset, here is the deal.

We have been getting a few emails about where and when.

Basically the deal is whatever you are in the world and whenever the sunset will normally set in your part of the world.

If you can post a photo of it to the Facebook site or email us, that is great too.

The idea behind the sunset is simple. It is a chance to know that the summer has ended, that you achieved with your fellow humankind a great deed in making a difference and that this sunset is once in a lifetime.

I personally can’t wait for that sunset. I plan to watch it until the sky is covered with stars and/or the mosquitoes have eaten me alive. 

Talk with you again soon on other bits.

Cheers!

A Few Good Things Remain

Think about it…

You are part of Moving Difference, it is something that is bigger than yourself.

You are a drop of water of a huge wave of giving forward to our communities.

You are taking one hour a week and you are making a difference while another person is doing the same thing in a different part of the world or maybe across the street.

It is all about the “you” in this world.

It is pretty amazing when you stop and think about it.

The last few weeks of the Moving Difference project, I am thrilled and saddened.

Moving Difference has set out and accomplished what it was to do and then some. It has been a long hot summer and it is marked with wonderful amazing people doing awesome things in their communities hour by hour of giving their time. That is the thrilling part.

The sad part is that it is coming to an end. The great summer of Moving Difference is fading into a memory or a distant thought. And in some ways that is good too. When we all watch that sunset on September 21, 2012 marking the end of Moving Difference and the end of summer, we will also all be marking ourselves as achievements of people that cared and actually stepped forward to be a difference, humans that made a decision to give their time to things that moved their hearts and minds.

As we head together to the final summer sunset and the closing scenes of Moving Difference for this year, I asked that you email us your Moving Difference hours as soon as possible so we can get the count in and going before the official end on September 21.

      I am still very proud of each of you, still working as hard as we did in the beginning when this project started, and still in amazement everyday about how big Moving Difference is and how wonderful people are.

   You being you is the thing that reminds me everyday that despite the crazy world that we all live in, a few good things remain.

Peace,

Jeny